There are unfortunately a whole lot of people who are using fear motivation on both young people and indeed adults, without really fully understanding its destructive, negative impact on others. Let's face it, as I stated before on many occasions in these articles, we initially learn the behaviors we exhibit as children by observing those around us. So if they did things wrong, well then, it logically follows that we will continue to do it wrong until such time as we become aware that by and large fear motivation is indeed counterproductive.
I myself was indeed programmed in my youth with a whole lot of fear motivation by my parents, and in particular by my mother who always used it -- you better do this or else this will happen! I'm quite sure that everyone is indeed quite familiar with what I'm alluding to here today. So, having learnt all about fear motivation at a young age from my parents, I obviously continued to use it on everyone until thank God I became associated with Dr. Denis Waitley who was the author of many bestsellers dealing with human behavior, including "The Psychology of Winning'" "The Winner's Edge" and "Being Your Best" to name a few.
From my association with Dr. Waitley I facilitated his "Psychology of Winning" seminar around the globe for major corporations, I learnt firsthand so to speak about the absolute importance of using desire motivation in order to get good results from people both young and old. Dr. Waitley states quite clearly, that we should only use fear motivation when there's a possibility of danger. However, on all other occasions we should always use desire motivation if we wish to get excellent results from people.
In his bestseller "The Psychology of Winning" Dr. Waitley states the following: "We are always moving toward our current dominant thought". This is absolutely true. So, when we use fear motivation by saying to a child for example, you better not fail your exams, or if a manager or supervisor tells one of their employees not to mess up a certain task or else, well then that person is actually programming the child or adult to do exactly what they don't want them to do by placing the thought of failure in their mind, which they will then move toward.
So, always, always use desire motivation on people young and old if you want to really motivate them and thus get excellent results from their actions. Use phrases like "I know you'll do a great job," or "I have absolute faith in you to succeed" ... etc. This type of desire motivation is very effective. Try it and see for yourself. I guarantee you'll be glad you did!
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