May 06, 2021
By: Jhanae Winter
For this Mother’s Day holiday Bahamains are remembering the touching and special moments with their moms.
It is often easy to get caught up in the pressure of spending money, buying gifts or preparing outings like brunches, dinners and other activities.
This means the sentimental and heartfelt moments are sometimes undervalued or taken for granted. But this is what celebrating the mothers and women in one’s life is about.
Antonia Ingraham, is her mother’s youngest child and only girl. She’s learned how to be a leader, to follow God’s plan for her life and see the good in people because of her mother.
Antonia said: “I think our bond really grew closer because of the many complications I had growing up with an autoimmune disorder.
“Many trips to the hospital, sick days and tears were shared between us and it is only an experience that a mother and child can have.”
Antonia treasures the love her mother gives her, the support and the room to grow as a young woman chasing after dreams. She grew up with kisses, hugs and a big warm smile that can light up a room, she said.
The love Anotonia sees from her mother is not only shown towards her family but even strangers.
On a trip to Shanghai, China, Antonia’s mom visited her while she studied abroad. Only Antonia spoke Mandarin, so her mother depended on her solely for communication with the locals.
But love has its own language.
During the trip Antonia said: “We went on many adventures around the city where she just would hail everyone. The part that I remember the most is that downstairs from the airbnb that we lived in there was an old homeless lady who would collect plastic bottles every morning.
“Once my mom noticed that and noticed the amount of plastic bottles we had in the airbnb she would wake up every morning, walk downstairs not speaking any mandarin at all, and communicate with the elderly lady to give her the bottles. Also, sometimes she would give her money for food or some kind of meal for the day.”
Just by existing and being herself, Antonia’s mother teaches her how to love all with the love of God, which is the greatest lesson of all.
Gone but never forgotten
Kaynell Gould, loves and adores her mother. Although her physical presence left her 12 years ago, the memories and moments spent with her mom is sealed in her heart forever.
As a young child, Kaynell learned how to be kind and treat others even when it's not reciprocated, from her mothers actions.
Kaynell said: “She never grew tired of giving and always found ways and people to release to. She had a sweet soul and was faithful even when she was wounded. She knew the power of forgiveness and importance of forgiveness”.
A moment many wish never to happen to their mother, is for her to fall ill. Kaynell’s mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a hip injury in her 70s.
As her mother lay on her dying bed, Kaynell recounts a touching moment she will never forget.
“It was about a month or so before she passed away. I had gone to her after work as usual to clean her up, change her bedding and put on a fresh night dress. Suddenly her frail body began to shake with her sobbing and tears.
“I froze because I thought I was causing her more pain. When I asked her what was the matter, she began to apologize to me for being such a burden and causing me so much work to care for her. It took great effort and composure for me not to cry in front of her as I sought to assure her that she was no burden at all and that it was a joy to care for her after all she had done for me.”
Although it is a heart wrenching memory, it's moments like this that allows Kaynell to reflect on the tender hearted mother she had and is grateful to God for having experienced such pure and genuine love.
Cheering me on
For a man, having a great relationship with his mother is very important and Tyler Hanna is a perfect example of this.
Tyler grew up in a single parent home, wherein his mother took on the role of both parents. But that never dimmed the shining love he received from her.
Tyler said: “To me my mother means everything. For an exemplary woman like her, I love and appreciate her and I will be forever grateful for her."
In what he calls the “proudest moment of my life”, Tyler came second place winning the silver medal for the 2017 CARIFTA Games, he said.
The responsibilities of a mother are never ending, but regardless of this, Tyler’s mother always supports him in all his endeavors.
Although training for his race to ensure he met the required time was not a challenge for him, his mother’s encouragement made this even easier for him to handle.
As he dashed head first across the finish line and obtained his medial, for the 200m race, his mom stood proudly in the aisles cheering him on.
Tyler gives his mother all the credit for the man he is and the man he is becoming.
“It is because of her I am the man that I am today and this is why we have such a strong relationship,” he said.
It is moments like these that cost many to remember the many sacrifices, memories, love and support that a mother gives.
This Mother’s Day Bahamas Local.com, encourages readers to reflect on the intangible and priceless moments with the mothers of their lives and take every moment to cherish the woman she is.