As a young man growing up in England and Ireland, we often used a phrase which goes like this "He's in Coventry" meaning that no one was speaking to that particular person. In other words, to use another well-known saying, we were giving this person 'The Silent Treatment'; we were simply refusing to speak to him or her. Now by not speaking to someone, a person is in fact speaking volumes. That's right, as the title of this particular article puts it 'What You Don't Say Speaks Too!'...yes indeed it surely does for it tells others that you are in fact very annoyed with them for something, and thus don't wish to communicate with that person any more.
For example: if you try to speak to your Spouse or Significant Other and they simply do not answer you but instead just go about their business in silence, you know full well that you've got a major problem on your hands as he or she is terribly annoyed by something. In other words, another way of putting it would be, that no answer to a question is in reality a very definite answer.
Let's say that you asked your longtime Boyfriend or Girlfriend if he or she would like to get married, and after your very direct question there's nothing but silence from your mate; believe me, you just got an answer to your question, loud and clear, as they say. That's right, no answer is indeed an answer, and in the case of a proposal, the deadly silence means 'NO' in no uncertain terms. Yes indeed, 'What You Don't Say Speaks Too!' particularly when you're very annoyed about something.
I'm sure we've all had occasion at some time to say to someone "You're very quiet today, is there something wrong?".....see what I mean? I guess this also highlights The FACT, that so much of the communication which takes place between individuals is in fact non-verbal. That's right, our body language in fact so very often communicates more accurately to another exactly what's in our mind than mere words do. Now, add silence into the mix, and you do start to get the message. Yes indeed, there's no doubt about it, as today's title puts it 'What You Don't Say Speaks Too!'
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